You are struggling to communicate your needs to your partner. Dealing with jealousy and scared shitless your relationship is changing in ways you are not prepared for. You may find that you are holding on to resentments you swore you would never care about. Perhaps you have things you dont bring up because you don’t want the fight that will follow. Sex and love used to feel easier, now even scheduling time together feels like a chore.

Some topics people seeking couples or relationship therapy may be interested in addressing:

• Infidelity

• Sexual mismatch or sexless relationship

• Opening your relationship

• We keep having the same damn fight over, and over, and over

• I dont even know who I am anymore since having kids and getting married

• We have been doing this for years and need a tune up or overhaul

• I am not sure if I want to commit to this relationship, the clock is ticking and I feel pressure

Build connection and intimacy through communication and addressing the longstanding issues in your relationship.

You feel alone in your relationship. You want to reconnect but don’t know how. Your ability to communicate with one another needs a tune up. you are in pain, stressed, and unsure what to think about the future of your relationship. Your inner voice is pushing you to focus on yourself as a means to work toward deeper connections with friends and partners. You are overwhelmed at the thought of setting boundaries with the people in your life and end up resentfully complying to keep the peace.

You may even be avoiding conversations for fear of the fight that will come after, in an endless loop of conflict avoidance and pain.

Searching for and finding a therapist to address your pain points is not an easy journey. In fact, it is downright exhausting. Reaching out is the next step to achieving your relationship goals.

You and your partners keep running round and round on the same disagreements and it is quite frankly getting tired. You find yourselves stuck in a non stop loop with the same themes and conflicts. You have drifted apart from one another. Your relationship has lost that spark you had in the beginning. Perhaps, you struggle with conflict and find yourself holding your cards close and not sharing how you are feeling anymore, to avoid the inevitable big blow up. 

​Maybe you aren't screaming and yelling at each other, but you also aren't feeling loved.

You feel as though you never talk and are living a business like relationship with limited intentional conversation. You may be asking yourself, "what am I even doing, was this all a mistake?

Let’s be real……relationships are HARD!

When you add in life stressors and the pandemic, staying connected emotionally and sexually can feel impossible. it’s hard to move through the stages of a relationship when the movies tell us it should be all sunshine and rainbows, and you are overwhelmed with stress and feeling unheard. Your sex life has dried up, you cant stand the tone your partner talks to you in and you have had enough. You are ready to start having those difficult conversations. Ready to start doing the work to build a lasting relationship or call it quits for good.

Week to week, couples/relationship sessions with me will involve active communication skill building, intimacy building, and leaning in to conflict.

We will roll up our sleeves and address what has gone untouched for a long time in your relationship. I will engage you in 4-6 sessions of assessment and skill building then we will practice those skills in session. The skills you learn will be part of “homework” between session. Individual therapy is done similarly and the out of session work will be individually tailored to your specific counseling goals. I expect clients will take an active role in meeting their goals, and utilizing the tools provided is a great way to do so. When working with individual clients the time between sessions is often framed with something to reflect upon and share during the next session.

Everyone deserves an affirming place to explore, heal, and reconnect.I am trained in sex therapy, couples/relationship counseling and am kink and polyamory affirming. I take a non pathologizing stance and believe you are the expert of your own life. By taking a curious stance I create a space that feels not only safer to discuss difficult topics but also engages your life story. I provide support in a way that values your unique voice.

Everything we do in couple’s therapy will be tailored to you & your partner.

Attachment

Have you ever noticed there are certain ways each of you behave during a fight that seems to follow a pattern?  One of you may shut down while others continuously try to keep engaging and the push pull of this attachment dance leads everyone to feel more frustrated, and fights get down right nasty sometimes.

Intimacy and Connection

Sex used to be slam against the wall hot and now its ho-hum regular degular. You want to want sex but you cant stop thinking about the fight last week, or even more frustrating, the fight you wish you had last week. You have kinks or sexual interests you are afraid to share, or not quite sure how to talk about and want a space like therapy to bring up your innermost desires.