AN AFFIRMING PLACE TO CONNECT WITH YOURSELF, YOUR PARTNERS, YOUR LIFE.
AASECT Certified Sex Therapy and Couples Therapy In
Detroit
And Across Michigan and Florida
Falling in love is easy, staying in love feels damn near impossible sometimes.
Hi, Im B.
As an AASECT certified sex therapist and experienced couples therapist, my passion lies in guiding individuals and couples through the intricacies of modern relationships.
With a focus on promoting healthy communication, emotional intimacy, and mutual understanding, I offer a safer and non-judgmental space for clients to explore their unique needs and desires. Whether working with monogamous or consensually non-monogamous couples, I strive to provide customized strategies to help my clients cultivate more fulfilling connections and overcome relationship challenges.
My ultimate goal is to empower individuals and couples to develop the skills and insights necessary for maintaining strong, vibrant, and lasting relationships. Whether I am working with you individually or as part of a couple, we will discuss ways to improve your relationships.
MORE ABOUT HOW WE CAN WORK TOGETHER
Frequently Asked Questions
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I live and work in SE Michigan. I am able to work with clients anywhere in the states of Michigan and Florida.
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No. To understand why I have chosen not to accept insurance please see the following
Privacy- I value my clients privacy and part of that is protecting it from insurance companies. Insurance companies can request notes and require a diagnosis for them to deem your services "medically necessary".
Control- When using insurance, they dictate medical necessity, how much they are willing to pay, and how often you can receive therapy. As the insurance member, the quality of care is limited to what or whom the insurances can offer.
Diagnosis – It is mandatory for a therapist to provide a mental health diagnosis when using insurance as payment for services. Without a diagnosis, the therapist will not be able to submit a bill for insurance payment reimbursement. This diagnosis is to be made within one session. I do know that for many people having a diagnosis can be useful and even therapeutcally relevant but I do not believe it should be mandated and controlled by insurance companies.
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I do not offer in person sessions at this time.
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Please visit my Investment/Fees page for current rates for services.
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After you schedule your intake session you will receive your invite to a portal to complete your paperwork. The paperwork is a mix of the legal things that we need to go over like informed consent and practice policies, and the personal intake questionnaire. Your intake questionnaire gives me more information about you, the systems that impact your life, your family of origin, and the problem you are bringing to therapy. Due to the sensitive nature of therapy I allow for questions to be skipped and gone over in a session instead. By completing the paperwork before the session we can ensure that our time together is spent discussing the reasons you are coming to therapy.
Once you have completed your paperwork I will send you an invite via IvyPay, a HIPAA compliant payment processing platform. Once that is complete we will meet for our intake session where we will begin the assessment process. This is a place to get to know you and better understand your goals of therapy and what you are hoping to get out of the sessions. Some folks come in and want to spill their guts, other people take a bit of time to warm up and trust me before going deep. I am there to meet you where you are and honor your unique experience of therapy. Reach out today with questions or schedule now!
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This is a difficult question to answer. It all depends on what you are seeking therapy for, the size of the problem(s), and whether or not you are coming to therapy as an individual or part of a couple/relationship. Please feel free to discuss this with me at any time.
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As a private-pay therapist I accept all major credit/debit cards as well as FSA and HSA cards. I do not accept health insurance, cash, check, or money order.
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I have limited sliding scale/low fee spots that you are welcome to inquire about. These spots are highly sought after and are nearly always full with long term clients.
If you are unable to afford paying for weekly services, out-of-pocket, here are some alternative options:
a) Bi-weekly sessions – Counseling services can be provided bi-weekly. This allows for clients to spread out services in a way that creates more financial balance instead of attending to weekly sessions.
b) FSA/HSA Visa Cards – If your insurance has provided you with a Visa Card, you can use either of these accounts to pay for services because therapy is a medical expense.Item description
Current sliding scale fees:
Individual Therapy
Income Fee
0-49k $225
50-109k $250
110-199k. $300
200k+ $325
Couples/Relationship Therapy
Income Fee
0-49k $250
50-109k $300
110-199k. $325
200k+ $350
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No, I do not charge late fees. You are still held responsible for paying the fee for service that you scheduled as this time was held exclusively for you, and only you. I provide all clients with a grace period, where I will hold a partial session if you arrive no more than 10-minutes late. If you are going to be later than 10 minutes please notify me as soon as possible. Please note, you will still be charged a full session rate and no time will be added to this session.
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Everyone is entitled to cancel/reschedule their session for whatever reason. All clients must contact me via the portal to put in such request at least 48 hours before their scheduled appointment. If this request is received before 48 hours, there is no fee. However, if request is received after this timeframe, you will be charged a cancellation fee that is equal to the cost of a full session.
Build connection and intimacy through communication and addressing the longstanding issues in your relationship.
You feel alone in your relationship. You want to reconnect but don’t know how. Your ability to communicate with one another needs a tune up. you are in pain, stressed, and unsure what to think about the future of your relationship. Your inner voice is pushing you to focus on yourself as a means to work toward deeper connections with friends and partners. You are overwhelmed at the thought of setting boundaries with the people in your life and end up resentfully complying to keep the peace.
You may even be avoiding conversations for fear of the fight that will come after, in an endless loop of conflict avoidance and pain.
Searching for and finding a therapist to address your pain points is not an easy journey. In fact, it is downright exhausting. Reaching out is the next step to achieving your relationship goals.
You and your partners keep running round and round on the same disagreements and it is quite frankly getting tired. You find yourselves stuck in a non stop loop with the same themes and conflicts. You have drifted apart from one another. Your relationship has lost that spark you had in the beginning. Perhaps, you struggle with conflict and find yourself holding your cards close and not sharing how you are feeling anymore, to avoid the inevitable big blow up.
Relationship Counseling can help you:
Have difficult conversations
Clearly state your boundaries and desires
Explore what you actually want out of your relationship
Build intimacy through improved communication
Decide once and for all if you want to stay in your marriage
Discuss the possibility of divorce in the presence of a therapist
Everything we do in couple’s therapy will be tailored to you & your partner.
Attachment
Have you ever noticed there are certain ways each of you behave during a fight that seems to follow a pattern? One of you may shut down while others continuously try to keep engaging and the push pull of this attachment dance leads everyone to feel more frustrated, and fights get down right nasty sometimes.
Intimacy and Connection
Sex used to be slam against the wall hot and now its ho-hum regular degular. You want to want sex but you cant stop thinking about the fight last week, or even more frustrating, the fight you wish you had last week. You have kinks or sexual interests you are afraid to share, or not quite sure how to talk about and want a space like therapy to bring up your innermost desires.
Maybe you aren't screaming and yelling at each other, but you also aren't feeling connected.
You feel as though you never talk and are living a business like relationship with limited intentional conversation. You may be asking yourself, "what am I even doing, was this all a mistake?
Let’s be real……relationships are HARD!
When you add in life stressors and the pandemic, staying connected emotionally and sexually can feel impossible. it’s hard to move through the stages of a relationship when the movies tell us it should be all sunshine and rainbows, and you are overwhelmed with stress and feeling unheard. Your sex life has dried up, you cant stand the tone your partner talks to you in and you have had enough. You are ready to start having those difficult conversations. Ready to start doing the work to build a lasting relationship or call it quits for good.
Week to week, couples/relationship sessions with me will involve active communication skill building, intimacy building, and leaning in to conflict.
We will roll up our sleeves and address what has gone untouched for a long time in your relationship. I will engage you in 4-6 sessions of assessment and skill building then we will practice those skills in session. The skills you learn will be part of “homework” between session. Individual therapy is done similarly and the out of session work will be individually tailored to your specific counseling goals. I expect clients will take an active role in meeting their goals, and utilizing the tools provided is a great way to do so. When working with individual clients the time between sessions is often framed with something to reflect upon and share during the next session.
Everyone deserves an affirming place to explore, heal, and reconnect.I am trained in sex therapy, couples/relationship counseling and am kink and polyamory affirming. I take a non pathologizing stance and believe you are the expert of your own life. By taking a curious stance I create a space that feels not only safer to discuss difficult topics but also engages your life story. I provide support in a way that values your unique voice.
Conflict is inevitable.
Romantic comedies have really done us a disservice. No relationship is perfect, despite what you might think after scrolling social media for hours looking for answers of how to fix yours. When people begin a relationship they are all coming to the table with different expectations and assumptions, and no-one is teaching us how to discuss these things from the beginning.
What is truly unfortunate, we believe admitting we have conflict in our relationship is somehow shameful.
If you think about your friends and their relationships, I bet many of those folks are feeling the same ways and not discussing the messy parts of their relationships either. Conflict is a natural part of relationships, and I would argue, can generate increased intimacy and closeness when done in a way that brings you closer instead of different ends of the same couch.
You are struggling to communicate your needs to your partner. Dealing with jealousy and scared shitless your relationship is changing in ways you are not prepared for. You may find that you are holding on to resentments you swore you would never care about. Perhaps you have things you dont bring up because you don’t want the fight that will follow. Sex and love used to feel easier, now even scheduling time together feels like a chore.
Some topics people seeking couples or relationship therapy may be interested in addressing:
Infidelity
Sexual mismatch or sexless relationship
Opening your relationship
We keep having the same damn fight over, and over, and over
I dont even know who I am anymore since having kids and getting married
We have been doing this for years and need a tune up or overhaul
I am not sure if I want to commit to this relationship, the clock is ticking and I feel pressure
Ready to recommit to yourself and your partner?
Frequently asked questions about couples therapy
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Typically I like to meet with everyone individually at least once at the beginning of our work together. This is an excellent time for me to do some solo assessing, get to know you a bit outside of your relationship, and discuss your family of origin and any related patterns you may already be aware of.
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I think the biggest factor in couples/relationship therapy “working” is seeking therapy before things are desperate in your relationship. That doesn’t mean you are a lost cause if things are feeling hopeless, but seeking help before that is beneficial. Another important factor is doing the assignments and skills between sessions. If you are meeting with your therapist for an hour a week, there are so many other hours of that week to be practicing your new skills.
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Therapy can be scary. Many many many people are worried about being judged or shamed for how they move through the world. It makes a lot of sense your partner may be reluctant. Often when we have a discussion with a partner and get curious about how they are feeling and what they are thinking they feel as though they are an active participant in the discussion. I will send you paperwork that asks you to reflect on what you individually want to do to improve your relationships, go into a conversation with your partner with a similar mindset.
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I cant tell you how many times this has been a concern from potential clients. Worried I am going to judge them and will be sitting here nailing it and absolutely perfect in all of my relationships. WRONG. News flash, I am also human and royally mess up my own life. However, I do have skills and training to bring things back around and that I can share with you to do the same. I think it is human nature to judge others, but I try really hard to put myself in peoples position and find the pain. if I can find the pain and where people are stuck, I can show empathy and understanding. Besides, judging clients doesn’t usually do so well in helping them make the changes they want to make. I have seen judgmental therapists myself and that is a HARD PASS for me!
Contact B.
b@rootedinchangetherapy.com
Telehealth
7426 W. McNichols Suite 206
Detroit, MI, 48221
Email
b@rootedinchangetherapy.com
Phone
(734) 999-0070
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